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Lighting Matches Part 3: Start Here

The big picture of America today is intense. One look at the price of gas and my anxiety shoots up right along with those numbers! War, government shutdown, and voting redistricting ramp up emotions. Every day uncovers a new crisis!

Here’s the thing. You cannot control what happens in the world, but you are in charge of how you respond when your own anxiety rises.

We began this series by zooming out. In an effort to look beyond the reactive, emotional intensity in our nation, I described America as a gas-filled room where people keep lighting matches. This way of thinking is called systems thinking.

Systems thinking challenges you to be thoughtful instead of reactive – to look beyond the immediate, flammable frustration (war, shutdown, redistricting) and investigate the cause of the gas leak, or the anxiety. It is easy to get upset when a match is lit. It is more difficult to slow down, notice what else is going on, and decide how to respond.

Last week, I wrote that in emotionally intense times, hate binds people together. When anxiety rises and emotions are ramped up, we join a group – maybe adhere ourselves to a political party, or become a Swiftie. The options are endless! Instead of slowing down to think through what “I” believe and value, “we” remain stuck together by our intense feelings.1

One more summary of the first two posts in this series:

  1. We zoomed out to confirm that we live in an anxious society. The individual, flammable frustrations (war, shutdown, redistricting) are not the problem, the problem is the gas filling the room.
  2. We confirmed that in anxious times, we react quickly rather than respond thoughtfully, and find our “tribe.” When emotions ramp up, we tend to rely more on intense feelings of togetherness than on our best, individual thinking, leaving society stuck in the gas-filled room.

What now? Knowing that you can only control how you respond and nothing else, what path might you take out of the gas-filled room?

The path out of the gas-filled room begins at your doorstep.

Let’s zoom back in, all the way into your neighborhood.

Ben Sasse is a former Republican senator of Nebraska. In an interview with 60 Minutes, he spoke of mending the brokenness of politics by starting where you live. Rather than getting caught up in the impossible, big political arguments, think neighbor-to-neighbor. “I think your fundamental political community is your neighborhood, and your city hall and maybe even your state legislature.”

Neighbor-to-neighbor is actually something you and I can work on; it is one path you and I can take to thoughtfully slow down and respond, instead of quickly react in this anxious moment in America’s life. Start in your own neighborhood.

A few years ago, I told the story of a failed attempt at a neighborhood get-together one summer. A couple of years later, the results were different. Marcus and I hosted 25 or so neighbors in our backyard.

It was a casual pizza party.2 Kids played. Neighbors young and old chatted. The group included a cyber security expert, doctor, teachers, retired folks, an oil field employee and a rowdy group of kids, among others.

I believe neighborhoods are safer when we take time to get to know one another, neighbor-to-neighbor. What do you believe about neighborhoods?

A casual pizza party will not fix war, shutdowns or redistricting. It will not immediately fix the gas leak in anxious America. Yet, it is one small step toward mending the brokenness.

I believe that professing I am a Christian requires me to be invested in my neighborhood – to look up and down the street for neighbors to get to know, even to rely on at times.

The big picture of America may be intense. Remember, your sole responsibility is not to fix it, but to decide how you might thoughtfully respond. Instead of lighting a match, or letting another match ramp you up, let the light of Christ guide you into the way of peace – peace for you and for your neighbor.

Photo by Marcus Moore on Unsplash

  1. Of course, there are times in a society when matches need to be lit: slavery must end, women must vote, LGBTQ people must be recognized as human beings. There are matches that need to be lit for the sake of justice, don’t get me wrong. Here, I am focusing on lighting matches that are not thoughtful or productive, but reactive to the anxiety. ↩︎
  2. In this blog post, I shared that Shannan Martin wrote one of my favorite books on this subject. ↩︎

Lighting Matches Part 2: When a President Hates

What happens when a president speaks aggressively against particular groups of people? You have a few options:

  1. Join in and light more matches!
  2. Or, as long as you are not part of that group, you can ignore it.
  3. Or, you can slow down, notice the gas leak, and get curious about this word from systems thinking (Bowen theory): togetherness.

When a crisis strikes a community, people come together – shoveling driveways after a winter storm or hauling away a neighbor’s debris in the aftermath of a tornado. It is natural for human beings to come together for the common good.

It is also natural for human beings to come together when emotions are ramped up and society becomes a gas-filled room. We gravitate toward like-minded people who do not challenge our thinking, but affirm our thinking. In this kind of togetherness, we seek the company of those who agree and make us feel comfortable and correct. This way, we can like and dislike the same sorts of people.

“Hate can be a deeply stimulating emotion. The world becomes much easier to understand and much less terrifying if you divide everything and everyone into friends and enemies, we and they, good and evil. The easiest way to unite a group isn’t through love, because love is hard. It makes demands. Hate is simple.”1

Hate can be a product of the togetherness force. We experience this…

  • within families (in our family, we hate when people add vegetables to tater tot hotdish),
  • or among friends (we cannot stand the White Sox2),
  • or at work (the competitor is our mortal enemy),
  • or in church (God forbid our grandchildren ever convert to that other dreadful religion),
  • or in society (if you do not belong to my political party, you are so very Wrong).

The togetherness force allows us to hate with others and not alone. It is more comfortable to surround ourselves with people who would not upset the hate vibe, but simply agree in order to keep peace in the group. And, you guessed it, the silent gas leak in American society persists when we rely on this sort of unhealthy togetherness.

When we rely on hate to bind a group together, we join in ramping up emotions when it might be better to slow down and think alone. The group becomes a clump of people instead of individual, thoughtful selves.

Instead of blindly agreeing with the group, you might do some research on your own. Get curious and ask yourself whether the White Socks are really so bad. (Jim Thome, after all.) You can look at the group you are part of (family, friend group, political party, church, etc.) and recognize that a healthy group not only allows for individual thinking, but even individual, respectful disagreement.

When you step back from the group and ask your self some questions, this is called the individuality force.

You are your own person with your own unique beliefs, principles, values and goals. But when you are fused to a group (a political party, family, church, or friend group, etc…) and emotions ramp up, it becomes extremely difficult (like a camel going through the eye of a needle) to manage your own thinking without letting your emotions take the lead.

  • Consider a subject you feel particularly passionate about these days. How much of your thinking has been inherited from your family or borrowed from a group?
  • Consider a group you are formally or informally part of. Does this group bring out your best self and encourage you to stick to your principles? Or is it so emotional to be part of this group that you aren’t quite sure just what you believe when you are with this group?

A group of any sort that encourages hate is suspect. Hate is antithetical to the Christian faith.

Those who say, “I love God,” and hate a brother or sister are liars, for those who do not love a brother or sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. (1 John 4:20)

  1. Beartown by Fredrick Backman, Chapter 35 ↩︎
  2. This is a baseball given, said any Twins fan ever ↩︎

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Lighting Matches: When the President Portrays Himself as Jesus

Consider this image: An enclosed room with a silent gas leak. No one notices the gas until a troublemaker lights one match, and then another. The match matters—but the greater danger is the invisible gas filling the room.

This is called systems thinking. Instead of focusing on the troublemaker lighting matches, it would be more effective to address the gas leak.

Why in the world am I telling you such a strange story?! Let me explain.

I write blogposts to invite you to be thoughtful in your relationships with family, colleagues, friends and neighbors. Relationships, as you well know, can get tense. When there is tension (also called anxiety) in a relationship and emotions ramp up, words or actions that would otherwise be no big deal are suddenly flammable. Examples:

  • Your co-worker left colored paper in the copy machine (a match is lit) and now your agendas are neon pink. Normally, you would recall the 80’s and laugh, but…you lose your cool.
  • Your kiddo spilled a full glass of milk at the dinner table (a match is lit). Most nights, you understand kids are clutzy, but…you cry big tears over spilled milk.

Systems thinking challenges us to be thoughtful instead of reactive – to look beyond the immediate, flammable frustration and investigate what is causing the gas leak, or the anxiety. It is easy to get upset when a match is lit. It is more difficult to slow down, look around the relationship, and wonder what else is going on.

If we investigate those examples, we can see what else is going on.

  • Your co-worker left colored paper in the copy machine and now your meeting agendas are neon pink, but because your dog kept you up last night, your car payment is overdue, and your grandma is sick, (the gas-filled room) you lose your cool.
  • Your kiddo spilled a full glass of milk at the dinner table, but because you are anxiously waiting for the doctor to get back to you with test results (the gas-filled room), you cry big tears over spilled milk.

You can see it is easier to react to the match lighting and harder to investigate what else is adding to the anxiety or tension, resulting in a gas-filled room. Here is another example:

  • The president posts a meme of himself as the Son of God…and people. go. nuts.

I am less interested in the content of this blasphemous post in which my own president portrays himself as the Son of God among exclusively white people. It’s just a match being lit. However, I would like to investigate what is filling the room with gas.

  • The president posts a meme of himself as the Son of God, at the same time trust in institutions has been depleted, social media speeds up our reactions to the news, news is posted in real time and not always accurately, the rich and powerful have left the poor and unemployed in the dust, and people. go. nuts.

America today is a gas-filled room and people (not only the president) keep lighting matches. The people lighting matches may be looking for trouble, but the greater trouble is the flammable gas all around us.

Wouldn’t you like to investigate the gas leak and how we, as a nation, might address the leak? The Christian faith requires each individual to consider how we are faithful citizens outside of church building. Let’s investigate:

  • How is social media ramping up emotions in the United States? (match-lighting)
  • How are smart people get duped by ridiculous claims and memes on the internet? (match-lighting)
  • How do “Christians” seem to overlook the president’s significantly un-Christian motives and actions? (match-lighting)

Putting out small fires is not as effective as addressing the gas leak. With the leak under control, troublemakers could light matches with little to no effect.

But today, as long as there is invisible gas filling the society, America will react and not thoughtfully respond to each match.

Circling back, I write blogposts to get you thinking about your relationships and what happens when there is tension or anxiety.

This three-part series is meant to get you thinking about how you as a person of faith and a citizen want to move through time of tension and anxiety as matches are lit in a gas-filled United States of America.

I also write blogposts to invite you to rely on Jesus’ tender love for you. When you rely on Jesus’ tender love in our own life, you may be more compassionate with others and the gas leak may begin to close.

The president’s blasphemous meme is not the problem, it’s just a match being lit. There is more going on as emotions keep ramping up. I wonder what might happen if each of us were to investigate the leak, that is, to do our best, most faithful-filled, individual thinking and rely on the tender love of Jesus for ourselves and for our neighbors.

Two posts will follow this one:
Part Two: The danger of relying on emotions and sharing a common enemy
Part Three: A thoughtful, Christian, neighborly response to this time in America

P.S. As I offer this invitation to think more clearly as individuals, I welcome your feedback, and your own thinking and wondering as we move through this season of America’s life. Please comment or message me directly if that is most comfortable for you. Your thinking helps my thinking, as we rely on the tender love of Jesus together.

The Night I Didn’t Do the Dishes

When I walked into the kitchen this morning, I saw them – dirty dishes from the day before laid out on the counter like people on a beach looking for a suntan. They were happy there.

The dishes did not care that I had not washed them, and neither did anyone else, even though I typically cannot stand dirty dishes loitering around! Some people say couples should not to go to bed angry. I tend to feel that way about dirty dishes. Even if it means staying up a little later, don’t go to bed with dishes in the sink—that’s what I tell myself.

No one else tells me this.

No one has ever said to me, “Lisa, don’t go to bed with dishes in the sink.”

So where did this come from?

Somewhere along the way, I formed an idea of what a kitchen should look like—and then turned it into an expectation: a good kitchen is a clean kitchen. Even though no one ever told me that.

The truth is, I might miss out on a conversation someone has been waiting to have with me, or hold up something fun someone wants to do, all because I’m busy trying to live up to an expectation I created.

What expectation have you created along the way, one no one is asking of you?

  • Is it a household chore? How your lawn looks? Your appearance? What you will serve at the next family holiday meal?
  • What are you busy doing that no one expects you to do? And what might you miss out on in the meantime?

The writer of Psalm 127 points out, “It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest [doing the dishes, perhaps], eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives sleep to his beloved.”

There is always more to do!

And often, there is less that actually needs to be done.

Photo by Mariam Antadze: https://www.pexels.com/photo/stack-of-dirty-coffee-cups-on-a-dirty-table-7351917/

Enough

If you think, “I wish I knew more. If I knew more, I would be better at my job.”

Or, “If I made more money, I could relax and have fun.”

“If I had more time, I could be a better partner/parent/friend.”

My spiritual director explains that the devil’s word is more.

A longing for more knows no bounds, it keeps you wanting more: More likes on a post, more friends to hang out with, or more time alone. More choices in the fridge, more clips to watch, more vacations. More promotions, more cash, more hours in a day.

The word more adds a teeny-tiny bit to what you already have. No matter what you have, there is a little more out there, more to want. If the devil’s word is more, Jesus has his own word.

Jesus’ word is enough.

You already know enough, you already have enough time and money. Because of Jesus, you are enough.

Enough with the idea that more is the only way!

At church a few years back, we considered a stewardship campaign entitled “Enough,” but that also happens to be the word parents use when they have had enough of their child’s shenanigans. “Enough!” the exasperated parent proclaims. So…we scrapped that campaign title! Still, enough is a handy word whenever more fills your head and empties your heart. More is a bottomless quest.

Enough has been given to you in Christ.

What happens if you take a second look at what already know, along with the money and time you already have, and recognize it as enough?

  • You already know so much! Instead of consuming more knowledge through books, social media posts, and (gulp) blogs, what if you dig in and use what you have learned so far? It is enough.
  • You just might have enough money if you ignore the ads and stop looking around for something new to buy. This is hard!
  • You cannot generate more time. What you have is what you get. It will expire, just like us. For now, how can the time you have be enough to live a life that trusts in the Lord more than anything you know, more than anything money can buy?

Imagine Christ walking around you today, the word enough tattooed on his arm, or written in bold letters on a t-shirt. Imagine Christ walking to the cross, muttering the word enough as he looks around the mess we’ve made of our lives when we take the devil’s word for it. Imagine the love he has for you as enough. Always enough.

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Who Is He, To You?

We have arrived on the other side of Christmas Eve. On behalf of all worship leaders everywhere, let me say one big WHEW! It was fun. We prepped, we gathered, we sang, and finally, we napped.

This morning, our congregation’s liturgy focused on Jesus’ name as it is scattered around the Scriptures. .1 We know who Jesus is in part because his name is whispered by the prophet Isaiah, foretold by the angel Gabriel, and announced by John the Baptizer. More than 2,000 years later, Jon Guerra asks who you say Jesus is.

His song, Nothing to Say to the New York Times, might be my favorite of 2025. Guerra explores how different groups in the gospels perceive Jesus, yet Jesus refuses to be confined by any one group. He is not concerned with who others claim he is; instead, he asks a deeply personal question: “Who do you say that I am?” (Matthew 16:15).

On this eve, eve, eve of a new year, who do you say Jesus is? Isaiah called him prince of peace, the angel Gabriel a Savior, and John the Baptizer the Lamb of God. What do you call him?

Who knows what you might encounter in 2026. What you do know is who goes with you into a new year, each time the dawn breaks, and whenever the darkness feels like molasses.

Who is this giver of endless chances, slate-cleaner, light-shining Savior to you? Who is this arms-outstretched, dividing-line-eraser, up-close-and-personal God-in-the-flesh to you?

And how might the names you give to Jesus be reflected in your own life?

  • If Jesus gives you yet another chance, could you do the same for that one aggravating person in your life?
  • If Jesus erases dividing lines, notice what group of people you keep at a distance, on the other side of a dividing line?

Jesus, name above all names, goes by many names, all for you. There is no question about that.

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  1. For worship planners, we used a lovely Lessons and Carols option from Sundays and Seasons based on the Naming of Jesus. ↩︎

Who Will You Avoid at Thanksgiving By Scrolling on Your Phone?

(This is an excerpt adapted from a chapter that didn’t make it into my Advent devotional book. The book is meant to offer you a new perspective on your own self, and on your relationships with family.)

I may forever question my parenting decisions in regard to devices. Our second son, born the same year as the iPhone, has never known an app-less world. Before the creation of the iPhone, I explain to these space-age creatures who are my kids, the word apps referred exclusively to appetizers. They still don’t believe me.

I love what my phone and tablet do for me. My Christmas shopping list is safely tucked away from nosy children. The recipe I am excited to try for a holiday meal is bookmarked. And all the Christmas music!  

It is ironic that by definition a phone, meant to be a tool for connection, has a way of blocking connection. Phones and tablets hold hostage our attention like neurotic Christmas lights, jumping ahead in the line of our priorities. Try the spiritual practice of eye contact and then struggle when your watch or phone call out for you like a needy toddler, “look at me!”

A week from Thursday, you may be required to set down your device and face a room full of humans, many of whom are related to you. It is possible you may prefer the company of your device to the company of at least one or two of those humans. It’s okay, you can keep that a secret!

To dial back the dread you may feel, one of my favorite writers and thinkers, Kathleen Smith, offers this uncomplicated tip: person-to-person relationships.

The idea is to sit down with one person at the gathering and strike up a conversation. Your conversation need not be deep. No need to address a sticky point in your relationship. “But short, personal inquiries about each other are an important glue in our society, families, and organization. They bolster mental health and create trust in relationships.”[1]

Can you set aside your phone and ask someone about the dish he brought to the meal? Or sit beside the person who seems left out of the conversation and simply say hello? What might happen if you ask her the highlight of the past year? What was great? What was rough?

Families so often make the mistake of assuming they know each other, or that it might be too vulnerable to get to know one another. What if, dear Lord, the person asks you a question back?! Yes, this is a risk of person-to-person contact.

Each day, there is a temptation to rely on a device to pass the time, entertain, even distract us. What connection might you miss next week if you scrutinize over the Wordle instead of sharing caring words with the person beside you?

As soon as you finish the last turkey sandwich, it will be Advent. Advent is the assurance that nothing can distract God from loving you. In the birth of Christ, God did not communicate such love from far away, but up close up, person-to-person.

If God came all this way, join me in wondering what might happen at Thanksgiving if we ignore our distracting devices and travel across the room to sit beside someone we’d rather not? Moving helps with digestion, so it would be a win-win.

Reflection

When does your phone distract you from your relationships with loved ones? And, think this one through: who is one person you could get to know better over the holiday?

Thank you, Lord, for your deep connection with us. Hold my attention, that I might receive the abundance of your life to share with my family. Amen.

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[1] The Power of Contact – by Kathleen Smith (substack.com)

A Time for Every Matter…But Not Every Matter Matters

If you were to ask me what a pastor does, I would say we tend to the matters named in Ecclesiastes, chapter three: birth and death, planting and harvesting, weeping and laughing, tearing (broken relationships) and sewing (mending relationships), love and hate, war and peace.

I was 26 when I was ordained at Holy Nativity Lutheran Church in New Hope, Minnesota, a most welcoming and gracious first call congregation. With them, I tended to the chapter three matters: walked with the grieving, celebrated the new births, prayed with those tearing or mending relationships, and prayed for peace in this forever war-torn world.

Twenty-six!!!??!!! Good Lord, who was I to walk with people through these matters that matter so much in our lives? “You are a pastor? You look like a teenager.” I did! Who was I to help people comprehend life matters?

The privilege of seeing all at once so many matters that mattered shaped my understanding of what matters. Not every matter matters. Some do, some do not.

My spiritual director might point out here that I am speaking of letting go. What matters in life is what we keep and what we throw away (Ecclesiastes 3:6b). We tend to keep matters that do not matter.

What matter matters so much to you when perhaps you should let it go?

  • It is a physical matters matter? Are you holding onto possessions that get in your way? Or spending money on things that serve little purpose in your life? Are you keeping house more than you are keeping relationships with the people who live with you or near you?
  • Is it a relationship matter? Does an old grudge matter so much that it gets in the way of your other relationships? Or are you so swept up in work matters that you go home without truly connecting with another human being?
  • Is it a faith matter? Imagine your life as though you could trust God more than anything or anyone else. Imagine your life as though the things that don’t really matter, really do not matter! This gives you margin to tend to the matters that do matter.

Perhaps there are few things that do matter, once we sift through what doesn’t matter.

  • What we have does not matter as much. What matters is that we take care of what we do have.
  • Where we live does not matter. What matters is that we live with love for our neighbors.
  • The one to whom you belong matters – the one in whom you can put your trust, who has claimed you as one who matters.

To God, your every matter matters.

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Around the Corner in 41 Days

You may already know. Advent begins in 41 days. Of course you know ! Who doesn’t have an Advent countdown? (Everyone. Everyone does not have an Advent countdown!)

You have to look past Halloween, All Saints Day, the end of Daylight Savings (a day savored by church leaders), and finally Thanksgiving to land in the liturgical season hovering just around the corner: Advent.

A year ago, I shared the news that with the help of Amazon I published my second book, Wait: an Advent of the Familiar. I was overjoyed to get the book out into the world! So overjoyed, in fact, that I overlooked mistakes I had managed to slip in after the proofreader did her good work. Oy vey.

Since then, I rewrote and reworked parts of the book, smoothed the rough edges and sent it right back out into the world, all spiffed up. You can purchase a paperback on Amazon or at our local bookshop, Faith Expressions. If you like e-books like I do, I will warn you the formatting here and there had a mind of its own. A few times I had to throw my hands in the air and admit defeat. If you like e-books, it is still a great option.

I wrote this book in an effort to help us all (me first) manage our own selves in relationships. By which I mean, move toward the Christmas holiday feeling a bit lighter. Perhaps an old hurt has made a relationship difficult, or political differences, or an episode of a soap opera actually took place in your own family generations ago. Maybe all three of these scenarios apply to you. (If so, this makes you normal.)

When a relationship gets tricky, we tend to react in one of three ways:

  1. Put your head down and ignore the problem. (distance)
  2. Fight, fight, fight. (conflict)
  3. Find an ally who agrees exclusively with you and avoid actually dealing with the issue. (triangling)

These tactics only get you so far down the road before you find yourself stuck in a roundabout, going round and round, repeating the same old relationship pattern, as though you are on stage with a familiar cast of characters performing a play you know all too well. Here you are, an advent of the familiar.

The holiday dinner table is often the set for this familiar play. This book is for you if you would like to find a way out of the roundabout toward a more pleasant Christmas Eve with family and friends.

These 24 short daily devotions will not quickly fix your relationships, but they may offer a new perspective. You may notice that what ticks you off about that family member or friend may not actually be the problem. Perhaps there is more to your feelings than first meets the eye.

The book begins with “wait,” a word that weaves its way through the pages. Because relationships are precious, they deserve a thoughtful pause, which is the meaning behind the liturgical season of Advent.

Slow down your breathing, your rushed words, and your hurried thoughts. Wait here. How might you see that one relationship with a touch of tender mercy, as you wait for the arrival of tender mercy in the manger?

A Cookie Contradiction

My daughter baked these lovely sprinkle cookies. She is a near-master of the Crumbl knock-off recipes, which was the answer to my husband’s question a few months ago: “Why in the world do we have so much flour?”

The cookies are as good as they look…most of the time.

Always the willing taste-tester, she handed me one after it had cooled. At first, I could not describe what I was tasting. It looked sweet, yet the taste did not match. A weird contradiction clung to the roof of my mouth.

“You should try these,” I told her, or warned her, before she took them over to her grandpa for his birthday.

“What do you mean?”

“Just…try one.”

When she did, her face matched my perplexed tastebuds. What was this odd, perhaps even savory flavor competing with the rainbow specks of sweetness?

After some deliberation, we realized the culprit was the cutting board. She had asked if I thought it was okay to set the cookies to cool on the cutting board instead of dragging out the cooling racks, an act of injustice we will never again commit.

I did not consider the onions and garlic that had been chopped up for something, probably soup, just a few days before. Those savory flavors rose up in delight, invading the warm sweetness of the cookies like a sneak-attack, flavor-massacre.

Luckily, setting them back on the baking sheet for an hour or so seemed to undo the disaster. I did appreciate the lesson.

Human beings, like those cookies, are absorbent. Without realizing it, we soak up the sweet or spicy flavor of the spaces in which we gather. We can easily absorb both loving and unloving attitudes toward the world and our neighbor from those with whom we spend our time in-person and online.

“You are what you eat,” is perhaps a simpler way to say all of this. Hang out with angry people and we absorb that anger. Hang out with joyful people and we absorb that joy. Hang out with people who are curious, or kind, or bitter, or hateful and we will find ourselves like that cookie: one thing on the outside and another on the inside.

The slipperiest part of being human is that you think you can change another person, but you cannot. You can try to make the angry person less angry, or the bitter person less bitter, however, without even noticing, those exact flavors have a way of sneaking in from the cutting board and shaping who you are and how you see the world and your neighbor.

What flavors would you like to absorb as you live your life with people?

For years, I have prayed with this New Zealand Prayer Book, a prayer book my internship supervisor first introduced. The ELCA lacks in prayer books, unlike our friends in Christ who are Roman Catholic or Episcopalian, which is the source of this prayer book. A few months ago, I tried to be more disciplined in reading the morning and evening prayers daily. As these things go for me, most days I remembered and other days I did not. I am no champion of perfection.

I can tell you that on the days I start and end with these prayers, it feels as though the day fully begins and ends with the Lord. Dare I say it is absorbing! The morning and evening prayers of each day are tied together and somehow, each prayer has spoken directly to my life, as the Holy Spirit has a habit of doing.

Here are two wonderings for you to absorb:

  • Consider the people with whom you spend your time at home, work, and wherever you go for fun. What might you be absorbing? What is the same or different in each setting?
  • What are you absorbing in the time you spend online? Does it make life sweeter when you spend time wherever you do online? Or would you like to reconsider what you prefer to absorb when you travel around the internet?